- Especially when somebody is giving you feedback or when having a discussion where you have opposing views.
- The courage to take on true responsibility and the desire to learn from failure. It is much easier to blame others if something has gone wrong than to take on responsibility for our own decisions (the team, the customers, the environment, the too hot or too cold weather etc. etc.). Or to not take decisions and wait until all doubts are clarified, thereby often waiting too long. Both can hinder a team. If instead we take that courage to be wrong, and take responsibility in front of the team, making sure that we learn from such failure, the team can move faster and achieve better results.
herCAREER: In your opinion – can anyone become or grow into a leader?
Behrens: Yes, I believe that everyone can grow into a leader, if he or she wants to. However, it is not that we are all born with the skills needed to be a good leader. It takes a conscious decision to grow such skills, to grow into a good leader. This means going out and putting us up for criticism, it means not being scared to hear where we need to develop, but to embrace those learnings and consciously grow
herCAREER: Do you have any practical tips for aspiring leaders? How to prepare themselves for such a role for example?
Behrens: The first preparation is to acknowledge that learning doesn’t end the moment that you are leading a role. It is rather the start of a new learning journey. Make sure you put yourself into such mindset. And then find your own tools for regular reflection. Maybe for you it works best if you read books or articles about leadership and write down your thoughts, maybe you form a small group with people you trust to discuss specific situations, or you find a coach you trust. For me personally, it is a combination of those, and Philia’s peer coaching was certainly a key part of it. The tools you use don’t matter, the mindset of consciously seeking feedback and setting your own time aside for reflection does. In whichever form works for you personally.